Here's Margie!

New Site Up and Running Smoothly!

2008-07-05T14:24:00.003-05:00

Hello Muffins:

It has been quite some time since I last posted here. That is because I have been working diligently to launch the new site and I am happy to report that it has been live for quite some time now.

If you have this site bookmarked please change it to http://www.heres-margie.com/.

Join me at the new location with a talented team of contributors dedicated to bringing you sexual health information, gossip, Gay and local news for the Twin Cities Metro area in Minnesota, National and International news links to stories about HIV and GLBT rights, etc.

We've added a new feature or two as well - including P's Sexy Sin-ema - where we will bring you what's new hot and sexy in the world of Internet Video. If you are an aspiring director of You Tube feel free to send us your latest and greatest. mailto:mrspederson@gmail.com

New writers include Mrs. Moisha Lipshitz (Gossip Gal), Mrs. Jerri Sue Dawson (The Original Desperate Housewife) and of course the gifted and talented Xochial Crash, Xochial is also taking on the job of shop girl and we will be bringing you an online store soon!

Make it a great day and join us in our new digs!

Kisses,
Margie

2008-03-16T08:20:00.003-05:00

Experiencing Technical Difficulties

Hello Muffins:

I know I promised to have the new site up on the Ides of March and I obviously did not accomplish this task. I am working hard to resolve the issue and am hopeful that I will be able to do so in the next couple of days. Please be patient. In the meanwhile, keep checking back here to find out ways that you can stay involved in our community.

Make it a lovely day!

Margie

Martha Martha Martha!

2008-03-13T09:17:00.006-05:00

Muffins:

I wanted to just take a quick moment to tell you about a project I am planning for the new site. I caught Martha Stewart on the David Letterman show last Tuesday (3/11/08).

She was witty and energetic. She spoke of the traveling she will be doing over the next week. With her daunting schedule I started thinking we should have a formal activity intended to help us all keep track of her globe trotting ways. Here's the deal! If and whenever you see Martha Stewart, take a time and date stamped photo of her and send it to me along with the location of where the photo was snapped. I will be compiling these into a little online scrap book with a twist. Stay tuned to find out what the twist is. Photos can be sent to either mrspederson@gmail.com or to mrsp@heres-margie.com. I look forward to getting started with this new project. The best line Martha had the night of the show was when she was giving Dave the names of her favorite cocktails. She saved the best for last. Martha, being a true blue New Yorker said that all time favorite cocktail recipe was a white wine "Spitzer" - Oh Martha - how very clever of you ;)

FYI, the clip is almost 7 minutes long and the bit about the cocktails starts up around minute 4.

Hugs,
Margie

Please respond!

2008-03-11T18:04:00.002-05:00

Muffins:

I just received an email from the Gay & Lesbian Leadership Smart Brief. It was an alarming and candid attack on GLBT people by Republican state Rep. Sally Kern.

Please take the time to read this post and then to respond by signing the open letter.

Taken from the post hosted by the Victory Fund

"Friend--I am speechless. I just heard a tape of a truly hateful speech made by an elected official. It is astounding what they will say when they think we are not listening. Check it out at http://www.victoryfund.org/listening. Equating the movement for LGBT equality with terrorism and toe cancer? Come on. It is so ridiculous that it would almost be humorous, except that she is deadly serious, and people are listening to her behind closed doors. We will not let this one go by. We need to make sure she knows people everywhere know what they say when they think we're not listening by visiting http://www.victoryfund.org/listening."

If you do just one thing for equality this week - consider doing this! Sign the letter!

Hugs,
Margie

Happy Heart Day all!

2008-02-14T14:59:00.002-06:00

Hello Muffins:

Well what would the day be if I didn't have a chance to say I hope you all have a happy VD! For those of you without a special someone to spend time with today remember that you can always bring some cheer to others. If you haven't special plans maybe it would be good to bake up some heart-shaped cookies and run them over to the nearest nursing care facility (or just go buy a few dozen from one of the brilliant bakers we have in town).

Remember that you can always bring cheer to others and in so doing are also bringing joy to your own heart. I hope you are all well and enjoying the day.

Cheers!
Margie

In bed and OVER Will & Grace and the Golden Girls?!

2008-02-05T15:20:00.000-06:00

I was...

Muffins, be careful what you catch this cold and flu season. There is some very tenacious crap out there. I caught a bit of a cold a few days ago and have been coughing continually ever since. As a person with Asthma, I of course pay very close attention to the signals my body sends me. It is for just that reason that I unplugged from my typically over-committed life to rest (and take every possible over-the-counter remedy imaginable)! Now, as a result, I am way more than full with my share of leftover television.

It still amazes me that with hundreds of daily viewing options being re-run, there still is very little that will capture my attention. I guess I would rather be out with people in the real world but my health will not allow it right now.

Therefore, I turned to movies mid-day today and was able to watch one that I will highly recommend to you. The film is "Two Weeks" and has a wonderful ensemble cast with the headliner being none other than Miss Sally Field.

The film has the feel of an Indy in large part because of the way the charachters are introduced. The eldest son is a film maker who is videotaping his mother's (Field) final thoughts for posterity. The film is a humorous and touching look at how siblings respond in the face of a parent dying. I have embedded a link to the trailer of the film in the screenshot of the DVD cover in this post. I highly recommend this film. Especially if you have ever needed to care for someone who is terminally ill.

That's all for now, I am back off to bed with a cup of hot tea. I do hope none of you end up with this crud. If you do, hit up the drugstore for some zinc and vitamin C but most importantly drink plenty of clear fluids and keep up on your rest!

For more information on the common cold and on pneumonia click here:

Click on the images above for info on the common cold & Pneumonia

XXOO

Margie

Hooray For West Hollywod!

2008-02-03T17:41:00.000-06:00

Hello Muffins!

I t seems that both me and my laptop may have come down with a virus. Never worry, I am not inclined to write much today. I would rather you take the time you may have endulged my random musing, to watch a recently released PSA produced by none other than the Fabulous Chi Chi Larue.

Please click on the image of Chi Chi above to go directly to the video. The truth she speaks is so important and relevant. Please feel free to share!

Also check out the Web site www.safesexishotsex.com

Now - back to my tea and comforter.

Cheers!
P

Some cold weather blues clues.

2008-01-19T11:07:00.000-06:00

Hello Muffins!

Well I am not really paying too close attention to the temperature outside in Minneapolis today. I just know it is darned cold. With below zero temps many of us take some time off and just snuggle in to complete the neglected projects around the house. I am no different. I have committed to a few catch up tasks that I hope will elevate my spirits for the upcoming doldrums of winter.

This is that glorious time of year where the rush to get things done for holiday entertaining and mad party hopping is over. And in come the blues... Post gift spending and extra pound dragging as a result of too many Cups O'Cheer can really influence your mood and bring you down a notch or two.

That is precisely why I am sharing a list of some ways you can take care of yourself.

Firstly, drink plenty of water. Our bodies dehydrate quickly in the winter because of the dryness in the air outside as well as the inside environments of heated spaces. It isn't just your skin that dehydrates either, your brain needs plenty of moisture to function properly. So make sure you drink your 8 - 8oz glasses of water each day and replace each oz of caffeinated or alchoholic beverage with the equivalent of H2O in addition to the 64oz in the plan.

Here is an excellent article on the importance of staying hydrated.

click on image to read article

Diet is another thing to pay close attention to as you wean yourself off of what probably was a richer than usual plethora of goodies. Quinoa is a perfect grain for this time of year as it can be made into a lovely Tabbouleh and the grain itself is the only one that boasts being a complete source of protein! Keep the Bulgar but try Quinoa as a substitute at least once then share your experiences with me.

Learn more about this fabulous food at:

here are some additional resources:

a sacred, super crop
the world's healthiest foods
Wikipedia description

For nutritional tracking, diet and exercise tips and great recipes and meal plans - all FREE go to a website I have been recommending to folks for some time now is:

Well that is all for right now. Time to get busy on those projects. Stay warm and hydrated and most of all happy.

XXOO
Margie

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

2007-12-11T10:05:00.001-06:00

Hello Muffins!

I know you've heard that before, but I hope it is true of our relationship. Even though you have not heard from me lately it is not because I have forgotten about you. I care for you as much as ever.

In fact, I think about you each and every day!

I have been very busy behind the scenes getting ready for what comes next. I cannot give it all away in one post though.

Rest assured it will be fun, sometimes irreverent, often informative and sometimes directive. You guessed it - P is going to launch a site.

Look for emails in the next few weeks telling you of more details. The common theme will be faerie dust so also look for this symbol...

Until then, enjoy this magical time of year and bundle up!

Margie

what a beautiful day!

2007-09-16T17:45:00.000-05:00

Hello Muffins:

I hope you are all enjoying the dog days of summer. I have just finished a fabulous dinner al fresco in my own back garden with my dear neighbor Tom. I (like many of you) have begun the process of slowing down a bit as we enter the most glorious time of the year. I love the autumn! The harvests are coming in and the air is nice and crisp in the evening but still temperate during the day. I am most thankful at this time of year! I am thankful, in particular, for the bounty of good friends and fabulous opportunities that have come my way over the years.

Enough of that though. Don't want you all to think I am just an old softie. I am, but that isn't what today's quick post is about.

I would like to challenge you instead. Here it is. I challenge you to do one of the following and then report back to me.

Volunteer your time and talent to a charitable organization.
Give items that are no longer of use to you to someone who is less fortunate.
Call a friend or family member you have lost touch with and make their day!
Let someone else pass.
Bake!!!!!! This time of year is a great time to bake something even if you don't eat baked goods. There is, no doubt, someplace like a daycare or a foster home or a nursing care facility nearby that would love to have some home baked goodies.
Smile at a stranger.
Lavish a lover.
Play!

Okay, now if nothing on the list I have provided you inspires you, do something else and write me to tell me about it.

Be good to one another kids. Life is short and you never know when your kind words will make the difference in somebody's day.

I am off to go for a beautiful walk and enjoy the sunset and hope you can do the same.

Peace!

Margie

What a lot of fun as the summer closes...

2007-08-30T14:15:00.000-05:00

Muffins:

It has been a bit since I have sent something out to you so here is a little something to tide you over.

Yesterday I had a chance to grab a quick lunch and then chat with Wanda again on her show. If you would like to have a little listen here's the link:

http://www.lavendermagazine.com/wandawisdom/2007/08/29/lbr550-bits-pieces-with-mrs-pederson/

Enjoy and I will bring you news from the north land after Duluth-Superior Pride Celebrations this weekend!

Kisses!

Margie

2007-07-21T16:24:00.000-05:00

Hello Muffins!

Well it isn't very often these days that I am able to sneak away to the neighborhood Cineplex for a show in the middle of a busy weekend. But today I was and I was so pleasantly surprised by the film that I just had to write something immediately. I saw Hairspray with a dear young friend, Marissa. We laughed and tapped our feet to the catchy numbers and marveled at how you can take a cult classic - throw some Hollywood tinsel on it and make it almost "Disneyesque".

The show was resplendent with special effects, glittery gowns and CAMP!

At one point in the film Wilbur (played by the immensly talented Christopher Walken) leans over to kiss Edna (played by another actor who has more talent than dozens of the newbies combined - Mr. John Travolta) and just as you think this is the highest grossing same sex kiss ever - Wilbur careens to the left and blows out the candle in the Chianti bottle bringing the screen to black. AND SCENE!

Or was it - well not for me... The woman (who was obviously a fellow Edinaite based solely on the layers of scent and Chicos(R) she sported) seated directly behind me said - and I quote:
"well at least they didn't have to kiss!"

WHAT!? Why was this woman at the show??? Was she weightist and fearful that if Wilbur kissed Edna he would catch a few extra pounds?

Or worse yet! Was she actually daring to comment on two men kissing? Get over yourself sweetie! Either way you win Mrs. P's rotten tomato of the day award.

How can you go to a film that is all about diversity, respecting one another and embracing change and societal progression while locked up in your own provincial little mind?

I would have loved to scene end with a kiss. Edna had captured my heart as a simple yet tender and wise woman and was lucky enough to have had a man who appreciated her. I loved that her attitude was fueled by not seeing color of skin and certainly not locked away in a world that could not accept the beautiful light that cultural diversity sheds on the world today. Take your homophobia somewhere else if you do go see this film because it really has no place in the audience. The film is based on two great entertainment icons (John Waters and Broadway). Both of which would not be what they are if it were not for a huge GLBT following. You don't care for queers and drag queens and boys kissing boys - move to an island!

As for the rest of you - go see the film! It is one of the best I've seen in a good long while and will be buying the DVD as soon as it is available.

That's all for now muffins.

Kisses,
Mrs. P

Another Day, another flipping dollop...

2007-04-11T21:25:00.000-05:00

Do a dollop... do a dollop of Daisey! WHAT? What the hell does that mean - I mean really WHAT DOES IT MEAN!?

Do you tire of being brainwashed in the regulated time in between your show. It used to be that commercials actually served a purpose - I know - I am old enough to remember! I remember when the Burma Shave signs at the side of the road served the purpose of keeping the kids quiet in the back of the car.

I also remember the PSA (public service announcement for those of you not familiar with the lingo) where the Native American (at the time we still referred to such individuals as American Indian) who was shedding a tear because he witnessed the murder of a duck from a plastic ring holder from a six-pack of beer.

I remember how THAT single image was enough to inspire me to snip all of the rings of the plastic holders that would cross my path so they couldn't choke birds.

What's my point - simple it's this...

There is no longer any substance to advertising. The images are all the same - they are plastic and uniquely American. We sell to the lowest common denominator. Unfortunately that is not to high on the food chain right now. I know that sounds demeaning and BITCHY.... Yes, perhaps it is so.

Once, however, you think about it and go back to watch an hour or more of mainstream programming you will agree.

I don't have any answers - I wish I had. I NEED your help readers. Send me comments! Let me know your thoughts about the stupidity of American Advertising. I Dare you!

Til next time Muffins - turn on the TV and go to sleep - that's what it's there for...

Mrs. P

What is Love???

2007-04-10T23:07:00.000-05:00

Hello again Muffins:

Remember the lyrics to the song... what is love? Baby don't hurt me - don't hurt me - anymore...

I do - and how! Seems as though it has been my mantra of sorts. Not that anyone in particular can lay claim to being the cause of such injury - only me. My willingness to look at every individual I encounter as a kind, generous and loving soul until proven otherwise seems to be just enough cause for the dilemma I seemingly have inflicted upon myself. Wow, As I wrote that I realized how calloused it must have sounded.

Truth is - we all go forward each day with expectations. Depending on our path, who we meet - what events occur - what challenges we face, each day will colour how and to whom (and how) we respond.

I fall in love! Doesn't take much either - seems the kind words of any gentleman these days will make me swoon. I guess I am a believer in LOVE! You know - the kind of emotion that used to sweep people away - we used to write songs about it - it was even the object of a US Postage Stamp series.

I am not ashamed of the fact that I do (fall in love). I find it curious that now just as much attention is paid to falling out of love, and what it is in the first place, that we have all but lost the emotion entirely. I am about to rant and that, my dear ones, would not be good at this hour.

Instead, I will leave you with a question to ponder. Without it (LOVE that iI where would we be? It is not so existential that we can't bring it back to a single expression - KINDNESS and thinking more (or at least as much) of others as we do of ourselves.

I LOVE each of you! I truly do!

Unconditionally!

That isn't to say that you may piss me off sometimes (talk to my children about that). But I believe we were each put on the planet to co-exist, and for my part I choose to love. It is so much easier than to condemn, hate, cast judgement or any one of a number of other expression of emotion.

If you choose not to accept it - unconditionally - I give it to you freely anyway!

Here's to a love-filled day muffins...

Take that!

:)

Mrs. P

Sister Dottie navigational error

2007-04-09T12:57:00.000-05:00

Oh well Muffins - a day simply insn't complete without some correction being necessary. Troy (Sister Dottie's Producer) has informed me that the best way to reach her broadcasts is through the website www.krcl.org or you will also be able to catch her at www.nowqueerthis.com
very soon. Thanks for getting those corrections off to me right away Troy (you delicious and hard working man). Sister Dottie is fortunate to have you in her tribe!

Oh My Stars!!!

2007-04-09T12:24:00.000-05:00

Yesterday was such a fun day muffins. I had the typical house full of interesting characters and we did have some excitement! I took a little nap in the late afternoon on Saturday and by the time I woke up I realized that I had missed the liquor store run and the house was DRY as a bone.

Never fear as a quick call out to Richard and to Chad saved the day and brought a couple of bottles of wine and a few beers to the all but parched party.

We had our traditional gathering of homosexuals and their allies to celebrate the roots of the no fabulously popular Christian celebration of Easter. We like to remember that long before that celebration emerged there was the annual celebration of re-birth and fertility. In honor of the day we also have a little crafty activity (of sorts). I ask several of the guests to prepare for battle and invite them to complete the scene of the "Peep's Day Massacre".

The event begins with a red velvet cake (blood soaked earth) topped with green icing and green coconut (to resemble the killing fields). Next comes the dead - dying - and bloody Peep Bunnies and Peep Chicks who have been warring selfishly to gain new territory (sound at all familiar). This year there was only one Peep standing and that Peep was badly injured. My question each of you, friends, is when will the warring end. We were not set upon this planet to destroy it, and each other in the vain conquests of man. We are here to learn and then teach love and tolerance.

I have included some pics of the war that ended so tragically with too many casualties and will end with this final thought. You can dress them up in Easter bonnets and finery, but in the end - if a war is caused by one person forcing there morality on another, the war was fought in vain. The conqueror most likely had more power to begin with and the resulting re-distributing of power and wealth is anything but moral!

so until next time... remember the Peeps!

Sister Dottie BROADcasting out of SL,UT

2007-04-02T02:03:00.000-05:00

Hello dear ones:

Much time has passed Muffins and for that I truly apologize. I have been one busy woman and have found it difficult to keep up with the routine of getting something out there for you to peruse.

So I am writing this post just hours away from my flight home from Salt Lake City, UT. This is my second trip to the fine SL,UT in just a couple of months. Why Salt Lake you may wonder? Well, the first visit was to explore the world of Harm Reduction at a conference held in the fine capital of the state that is home to the world famous Mormon Tabernacle Choir. The second was to return for a visit with a lovely gentleman I met during my first visit. Although this state boasts some of the most conservative values I have encountered, it also is the home to a wonderful friend of my new acquaintance – Sister Dottie S. Dixon. Sister Dottie is a bit of a local celebrity and is quite an outspoken individual in her own right. In fact, she is on the local public radio station monthly and is a delightful presence on the airwaves here in the West. You can catch her at KRCL 90.9 "Radio Free Utah". Sister Dottie appears on a program entitled “Now Queer This" and is quite delightful!

Like me, she is a bit opinionated (well – you know – you get old enough and you can say just about anything because half the world thinks your wise and the other half thinks of you as inconsequential) and she is also a voice to be heard.

I cannot give you specific times and dates for when you are able to hear her on the air – what I can tell you is that she is well worth the listen if you can catch her. Another option is to go to http://www.kcrw.org/ and keep one eye open for the program. The next time Now Queer This broadcasts is this upcoming Wednesday (4-4-07) at 1 pm.

I hear tell that Sister Dottie will soon have a website and I will certainly point you to it as soon as it launches.

Until then Muffins, look for her and all other wise women whom know that the only sin associated with homophobia is the unnecessary judgment so many cast upon the GLBT population.

Here’s wishing for a peaceful future that embraces all diversity and supports equal rights for all citizens.

Hey, if a couple of old crazy broads can "get it" – why don’t y'all give it a whirl?

Until next time, eat cookies and smile – life is too short for anything else.

Hugs!
Margie

No One Said There'd Be Months Like This...

2007-01-19T09:41:00.000-06:00

Hello again Muffins:

Good things often happen in pairs. Bad things in threes. Why is this? Are these simply old wives tales? Are old wives tales simple truths (cause let me tell you this old wife could add a few to the list), or are they best ignored?

Here's a thought. The next time something bad happens to you - write it down (with the time and date of course). Put it somewhere where you can conveniently just add to it with more scratchings of the good and the bad things that occur in your life. I chose my cookie jar (since I still cannot find a good low everything recipe that would cause the jar to be brimming with treats. Once a month, quarter, year, decade (you be the judge) go to the stash of memories and sort out the good and the bad. Organize them by date and which side of the coin it represents.

You may well find that the truth is good does travel in pairs and bed as a pack. You be the judge. You may also find that - in the midst of a seemingly bad time in your life, the good is simply overshadowed. You may also find that the bad can often be forgiven and overlooked if you dwell on the positive in your life at that time.

I am not writing this to show how innately "Polly Annaish" I am. Rather, I am stating that - even in our most difficult personal times, there ought to be something to pull us through. My new lifeline is the knowledge that:
A) My cookie jar has a new and important job
B) I have new found power to evaluate my blessings and curses just by pouring a cuppa Joe in the morning and sitting down to have a look see.

Recently I discovered I have a whole lot more of the good in my life than the bad. I consider the folks in my life to be gems. And you know, a girl can never have too many of those.

Just a little coffee musing today... off to do the good deeds that make our community a nicer place to reside.

Enjoy!
Mrs. P

Recent podcast on Wanda Wisdom

2006-12-01T14:25:00.000-06:00

If you like to listen to campy,

fun and informative

shows - then regularly

go to Wanda Wisdom at

Lavender Magazine

Hello Muffins!

I am sooo excited about a new friend of mine, Miss Wanda Wisdom. She is quite irreverent and funny. I am in a bit of a rush today so this poet is short. I just want to give you a link to listen to the show.

If you can, take a moment to take a little break and listen to us dish.

Enjoy!!

Here's the link

http://www.lavendermagazine.com/wandawisdom/2006/11/21/lbr385-bachmann-butt-sex-with-mrs-pederson/

keep our kids safe

2006-11-25T10:12:00.000-06:00

Last night my dear sweet son made a suicide threat while on a call with his brother. His brother called me right away (smart thing to do) and I was quickly back on the road from a lovely party a little North of the city. As we approached the city and I saw the rushing water over the dam at St. Anthony Falls I was overcome with grief at the thought that my precious child may be in the river somewhere. That was his plan. He was going to head to a bridge and jump. I took his threat very seriously as he has been despondent and dealing with issues of unemployment as well as problems with his housemates.

I walked into my home and he was in the kitchen, casually checking his email. I blew up at him- asking if he knew how scared that made me (and others) and how many people were out looking for him!?

He stormed out of the house and across the park. I tried to get him to stop and he just swore at me telling me he was really going to do it. I called 911 and the police quickly arrived on the scene and took him to the hospital. I have been worried about him for quite some time lately. He had been dating a woman whom I had always felt was a negative influence.

She was dark and brooding and manipulative. I had written a post about her some time back. I want all parents – of minors and adults – to know that it is important to know with whom your children interact. If you have any influence over this – take it, use it, and keep your children safe!

2006-07-29T09:09:00.000-05:00

I'm MELTING!!!!!!!!! MELTING!!!!!!!!

Muffins, I am one cranky ass b$#@! right now. I know we are supposed to be good Minnesotans who enjoy "celebrating the SEASONS" but nowhere in the original code of conduct presented to me in my childhood was I presented with the possibility that I would be residing in Serengeti Two!

This heat is for the birds and is a continual reminder of the film I saw last week with my dear friend Jonathon. We went to see Al Gore's film "The Inconvenient Truth" (about global warming). It is a well crafted piece that explores where we may be heading in terms of global catastrophe if we do not work quickly and efficiently to reduce emissions relating increased global temps. I am slightly concerned by the trend and yet I believe that there are many things that we will not understand about meteorological fickleness due to the absence of any longitudinal data older that some of my friends (Moisha Lipshitz) supporting the claims that we are doomed.

What I can say with some level of assuredness is that I am parched and always damp in this current wave of extreme temps. I truly feel like the wicked witch of the Midwest these days. I wake up sweaty and not because I have had the right attention paid to me overnight. ;)

I weather like this I have realized the following:
I am more prone to road rage.
I will go to a movie even if it doesn't really sound that inspiring (just to be in a refrigerator for a few hours).
I like to hang out in the freezer section of Cub Foods.
I examine the perspiration stains of others to see if I am sweating more or less than my peers.
I chant the mantra of the Red Ribbon Riders and Crew "Drink and Pee"

and

I find no relief!

Today I will be spending the day at Valley Fair in support of the PrideAlive annual Gay Day at Valley Fair event. The only good to come of this heat wave is that the park should be full of cute boys going shirtless!

I only have one thing on my mind right now though... The words of Rhoda Morgenstern in her opening monologue of the television show bearing her name...
"so I moved to Minneapolis - where it's cold and I figured I'll keep better"!

What the Hell Happened here. That was a short 3 decades ago (give or take).

Maybe we should all seriously take a look at what Mr. Gore has to say and take every opportunity to craft some changes to reverse this climate trend change.

I don't know about you but I would like to think that when I am old enough to sit on a rocker on a porch some day I can do so with a nice frosty drink in my hand. If the current trend continues we may be looking seriously at having to seriously "Chill Out".

That's all for now muffins... Keep cool and wear your sunblock!

Leave it to Gilmy

2006-07-25T14:29:00.000-05:00

Leave it to Gilmy…

My dear friend Gilmy about not signing on to post new messages has properly chastised me. Well muffins, I must say it has been a very busy spring and summer. I have many exciting stories to share with you and I will begin doing so just as soon as I am able to dedicate a DAY to creating new posts. I have met so many wonderful new folks over the past few months and I would love to include you all in my discussions. I promise to be better about publishing new posts from here on out. In the meantime, feel free to send me a message with YOUR news and questions about life (you know anything from stain removal to safer sex) are always welcome. If I don’t have an answer for you, we can discuss it as a community and hopefully you will achieve some resolve.

For today, make it the best day ever!

Peace & Love,
Mrs. P

Wow! Blink and you lose a month!

2006-05-05T09:37:00.000-05:00

Hello Muffins:

A lot has transpired since last we communicated.

I have been to the ball (Oscar Night at the State Theater), attended several rallies at the Capitol, hosted a fertility celebration for 20 plus (on Easter Day of course - we must remember the roots of the now pastel bedecked holiday were originally pagan and a much anticipated celebration of the return of Spring), Auctioned off my favorite Bachelors for charity and still managed to build a bookcase to finish the new look of my library! It is no wonder this ole miss hasn't had time to write. I promise I will get better.

As summer approaches I will be busy with such things as the AIDSWalk, the Red Ribbon Ride and keeping a close eyeball on the shenanigans of our elected officials.

I will do my best to post some pictures of the fun events I have mentioned in this post. Who knows, I may even get around to it this weekend... stay tuned in.

For today I wish to give you just one thing... One little kernel of truth... words to live by you might say.

Live each day as if it is your last. I once saw a quote (anonymous) that stated "The more you live the less you die". I recently have had several dear ones pass and also have had the opportunity to enjoy the company of many of my elders. I look forward to spending time with each of my loved ones and hope you are making the time to do so as well. Life will always give you plenty of opportunity to busy yourself (if that is what you want). But once a person is gone, the opportunity to tell them personally how much they meant to you is gone.

Today I just want to conclude by saying "Goodbye Annastasia. You will be missed".

Mrs. P

I am really angry!

2006-03-25T00:10:00.000-06:00

Hello again Muffins:

Can you believe how our hard earned tax dollars are being spent?

I can't!

I am, quite honestly, very angry!

In fact - (it would make my mother roll over to hear me put it in these terms) I am "pissed off" at the way my tax dollars are being spent.

I know we need the representation of all the diversity that Minnesota holds at the Capitol.

I do not, however, believe that I should have my hard earned tax dollar subsidizing the hatred that is being spewed forth in the form of riders on bills and legislative agendas. Why, just this week alone, I have had opportunities to see right wing extremists gather on the grounds of the Capitol claiming that the only unions that should be honored are between a man and a woman, listen to the venom of a vile woman who holds public office and resides in Stillwater - need I say more - spew forth on public radio and then see how My hard earned tax dollar can be so easily spent in ways that I would never endorse if given the chance.

I mean - really....

This is taken from the website www.outfront.com

In a move that "did not reflect well on the authors or the committee or the House," according to committee member Ron Abrams (R-Minnetonka), the House Taxes Committee approved a bill that combines the proposed anti-marriage amendment, an amendment to dedicate vehicle sales tax to transit, and an amendment to dedicate state sales tax to a wide range of arts and environment spending. The committee's five hours of deliberation began with a bill to amend the Minnesota Constitution to dedicate a percent of the state's sales tax to improve hunting and fishing in the state. But in a process that one supporter compared to a circus, the bill was changed into a sales tax increase dedicated to hunting, fishing, parks, trails, zoos, arts, humanities, museums, public broadcasting, and water conservation, with the other two constitutional amendments tacked on for good measure. The original bill's author, Rep. Tom Hackbarth (R-Cedar), denounced the transformation as "a political game" that will kill his bill by weighing it down with partisan provisions.

I do NOT pay taxes (thereby employing the legislators who spend their time playing these shenanigans) to have it squandered in such a manner!

I am tired of this.

It is all rhetoric!

Sodomy is no longer illegal - so what - we have to fight on different grounds?

I don't care who you are - if you have the amount of compassion and the effort to put forth in a relationship with another human being to call that person your spouse (significant other, partner, buddy, life mate, co-planetary-explorer... whatever) YOU SHOULD BE RECOGNIZED AND HONORED FOR THAT ACCOMPLISHMENT!

Horse hockey that we should split hairs on whose love is worthy of public endorsement. Let's just even the playing field. DO AWAY WITH MARRIAGE!

It seems to be the issue!

Simple.

I am sooooo angry right now I don't think I have anything else to say.... except Michelle Bachman - You dear - need a lesson in manners and etiquette.

It is not acceptable to lie - especially in public and while being recorded!

Good Night (and God Bless)!

Mrs. P

What the hell?

2006-03-11T13:19:00.000-06:00

I am sitting here looking out a window in St. Paul Park, gazing upon a wooded terrain about to wake up from a gray winter nap. This is the same window I looked out a couple of days after my friend Tom died and saw deer walking through the snow in the middle of the night. I wondered then if the darkness would lift. I felt as if my world had permanently lost some of it's sparkle.

Today is a different story however. Last night many of us - old friends and new friends alike - were able to sit around a beautiful fire pit - celebrating the anticipation of an early Spring. I am listening to Sarah McLachlan's "fumbling towards ecstasy" and I muse about if that isn't what we each do - every day?

My dear friend Kristie is visiting this weekend and her presence is a little like crawling into bed with a good book. You know (at least I hope you have the good fortune to know), the type of friendship that requires less talk because so many words are now simply unspoken but well understood.

The type of friendship where the mere utterance of a single word can set you both to laughin' uncontrollably. The type of friendship that truly blesses you and makes you glad to have crossed each other's path. The kind of unconditional acceptance that makes it all okay - and helps you hang on when things become dark and desolate.

I just wanted to launch this note to say I am grateful to you Kristie. I appreciate you dear, as I do so many of the fabulous women I am privileged to have in my life.

Jerri-Sue, Ames, Susie, Jules, Wendy, Sandi... You are all such inspiration! It is certainly not that you breeze through your lives without struggle. It is the grace and wisdom you each employ in your ability to rise above and persevere. It is the incredible love and peace you each have in your hearts and souls and your ability to place others so close to the front of your thoughts.

You are more than wind beneath my wings - you are the tradewinds!

Why is this post entitled "what the hell?" - because that is the name of an upcoming event being held tomorrow at EP Atelier www.epatelier.com .

The event is about Gay/Bi men and spirituality. I struggle so, trying to understand why we have so many people cloaking themselves in self-righteousness and condemning homosexuality. I wonder if I will see and end to such ignorance in my life.

I wonder if the kind words and unconditional acceptance these mighty women named have demonstrated through their daily actions will ever catch on. Will they ever be able to ignite the brush fire that will meet the raging forest fire and extinguish it flame for flame.

I am priviledged to have witnessed a controlled burn or two in my life (you know - when there is a risk of fire in a field - so they start a controlled fire to contain it) http://archives.cbc.ca/IDCC-1-75-849-4928/science_technology/forest_fires/.

I wonder if there is a way for us to locate all of the direction(s) the conservative Christian flames are traveling and can head them off at the pass? http://hrw.org/wr2k5/wr2005.pdf goto page 40 of the report.

If every day we each commit to asking one other to challenge homophobic hatred by calling it out publicly whenever we witness it occur, we will in essence be bringing attention to the fact that the forest is burning...

If every week we each volunteer our effort(s) in speaking up for the oppressed GLBT community in some way and if we acknowledge and support each GLBT-identified person whenever we have the chance, then we will be fanning the flames of our own brush fires.

If we fan those flames right into the path of the forest fire we may have a chance of controlling it before we lose it all.

Let's face it... if the forest burns completely - where will the fresh air be produced. Imagine that each tree represents a vote of independence or a voice of freedom. The destruction could take years - if not lifetimes to rebuild the damage that is clearly underway.

It seems easier to run from the sort of danger that a raging inferno presents. Ask yourself, however, if you haven't enjoyed the gains experienced by accomplishing at least one thing that took incredible effort and discipline on someone's part (if not your own). Effort is worth it!

I am calling to each of the women in my life today to get into gear. Fan the flames of the brush fires with me...

Let's start far enough away from the big blaze to burn out a ring of protection. let's make it wide and solid and continuous. Let's surround and contain the threat. Let's put it out once and for all!

Let's piss on it if we have to - hell - we are ladies....
but we know how to exist in the woods when we need to.

You know in the end we will celebrate and be happy, joyous but most of all FREE!

That's all for now Muffins...

enjoy this fabulous weather and remember the fire warning

2006-02-26T01:13:00.000-06:00

Here i am

I cannot believe that this ole broad can learn a new trick. This is my first post from my new cell phone. Hurray!

Now - no one is safe! I might have coffee with you one day and snap a photog - next thing you know - you will be on the web. Just remember to smile when you see me - you never know...

Fun with the Birkey

2006-02-25T00:19:00.000-06:00

Today I stepped out after work with my dear friend Andy Birkey (AB). My that boy does have a following. He is quite well known and yet he does not allow celebrity to go to his head. I saw him engage brilliantly with many individuals (both mutual acquaintances and strangers). He treats everyone with respect and makes them feel appreciated. That is almost everyone. He does have a certain individual whom I will allow to remain nameless who has taken to bar stalking him.

I think this is a deplorable attempt to be around someone long after they have asked you to stay your distance. If an individual is out with friends and they are at the same establishment as their "stalker", what should protocol be? AB was at the bar long before the BAR STALKER (BS) arrived. BS got him in his sites and then took opportunities to isolate others from the group as they went out for a cigarette or to the bathroom and would engage them. Then, assuming that he had an "in", would wander back to the group as if attached to the body of the returning friend much the same way a barnacle would to the underside of a boat.

What would you do readers? AB set a very clear expectation that he needed to be respected and that he was leaving the table. He also made it known that the individual needed to be gone before he would return. I reiterated the request to BS after he (AB) left. BS then became indignant, slammed his half-drunk beer in the middle of the table and stormed off.

I personally think the statement "NO MEANS NO" definitely applies here. My final words on this topic are that as our society becomes more flooded with tasks and demands we seem to be losing one very important social nicety - MANNERS.

BS - stop the BS and get yourself some (manners that is)!

That's all for now muffins...

Love, Peace and Good night
Margie

dear friends are priceless

2006-01-31T23:42:00.001-06:00

Good evening Muffins:

I had the opportunity to reconnect with a dear friend and sister of mine over the past couple of days. Isn't it fun and amazing how some people enter your life and no matter the circumstance of your introduction, you know you have known them before. I have been blessed with many friends with whom I share that instant familiarity. I often refer to those folks as persons with "Old Souls". I am grateful for these relationships. They are the people I tend to turn to (and lean on) for my support through the tough times. They are the ones who never say the obvious about weight gain or a bad dye job. The same ones who will offer kind words of encouragement when you tell them you lost a few pounds or decided that chartreuse wasn't really the color for you after all. These are the people who will maybe say something about you to another friend and even if it gets back to you in a negative way, you need not question their intent. You know they have your best interest. I am so blessed by so many people in my life who are in this category.

I hope each of you has someone like that to rely upon muffins. They are dear and should be treated as gold. This is a short post tonight because I wanted to let the girls in Green Bay (especially Anni) know I am thinking of them. Have great communion with one another and I cannot wait to see the triplets soon.

Love, Peace & Joy
Mrs. P

2006-01-31T23:42:00.000-06:00

Well here it is... no longer a secret.

My fabulous new Pink Stanley!

Please do your part

2006-01-31T11:35:00.000-06:00

Hello again:

I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. Mine was filled with spontaneity, fun and excitement. I was able to catch up with old friends. Meet new people and enjoy a couple of good cups of coffee along the way. I am delighted to report that it was a weekend of little consequence and for that I am eternally grateful. I have had a busy past month and have contemplated just exactly how to blog about it. A good friend committed suicide earlier in the month and it really served to send a shockwave through the entire community in which I live, work and play. So many of the people I encounter daily either knew this person directly, or knew him indirectly through one of the many community activities with which he or his partner were associated. He was a good, kind man. He we be sadly missed by so many people who loved him and I will remember him fondly forever.

The reason it is difficult to write about is due to the nature of his passing. Depression is such a serious illness. So many people suffer from it. I am troubled by the insidious nature of it, and by the fact that so many are affected by it. I often wonder what it is in our lifestyles as Americans that has placed this horrible toxin in our air. What is it that has made depression so common? Why is it that we cannot address the issues contributing to it? Why…. Why… why?

I have been struck lately, as I drive on the interstates mostly, of how many billboards attempt to bring attention to the fact that depression can be treated, and suicide kills. Yet the things that are implied are all after the fact remedies that seem to ignore the prevention discussions that we can also have. Mental illness is still the diagnosis in the closet for many people. It is the family member who does not get invited or spoken about at many family functions. It is the thing that many people will leave out of their family history when speaking with their doctor or nurse. It is the badge of something dishonorable to so many yet it is so common that almost every family or working age adult has been touched by tragedy as a result of it having been untreated. Mental illness is often a biologically rooted diagnosis that is exacerbated by many situational factors. Being made to feel that one is unacceptable, unlovable or otherwise unworthy is a huge contributing factor to anyone who has been ostracized by society at large. It is no doubt a contributing factor to the stability of an individual suffering depression. Truth be told it wasn't that many years ago that I had a lovely friend once who died of cancer when little was known about it. Even though today it would be all but unthinkable, she was also ostracized because people were afraid… they didn’t want to “catch” anything. She was beloved by many but in the end days of her life, only a few were still in close daily contact with her. Many would rather hear about how she was doing by visiting with one another over a cup of coffee. Life is safer that way.

Environment has so much to do with how a person deals with and lives with depression. Even when they know they are loved, the questioning that often accompanies the darkness of loneliness and despair, associated with depression, can seem insurmountable to those who suffer from it. Additionally, there are all sorts of contributing societal factors that send very clear messages to us all that one should be happy, look a certain way, spend their money with this company or on that product… social cues that inform us of whether we are living the “Good Life”

Somehow all else is lost and, therefore, less valued by many who engage in the toxic lifestyle of “keeping up with the Jones”. Our society seems destined to continue the practice of valuing oneself by comparison to others. In spite of the fact the Jones left town a long time ago. On an episode of “Designing Women” many years ago Julia Sugarbaker spoke a profound truth about family members suffering from mental illness. She asserted that the visiting northern states niece of her dear friend Bernice (the niece was trying to have Bernice committed for her eccentricities) was unaware of Bernice’s inherent value and charm. In fact, she defended all of Bernice’s actions and then went on to tell the niece – in essence – it was a matter of cultural perspective. She simply stated that the difference was simple. Northern people want to take the “crazies” in their family and lock them away whereas, the people of the South take them out and show them off as people they are proud of. I long for the day when we all will embrace diversity – and the struggles that often accompany it. The day when we can all be honest with one another and, in so doing, begin to eliminate one of the contributing factors to depression – the closet. People with mental illness and Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender people (GLBT) have that one thing in common, The Closet (a room of incredible isolation and loneliness).

GLBT folks and other oppressed peoples are often depressed as a consequence of being told that they are not valuable through so many negative stereotypes and media portrayals. Rampant homophobia (that has long been embraced as a political pulpit from which to spew ideas of hatred) must stop! We are all responsible for allowing it to continue as long as it has and we need to put it to rest.

I ask each of you today to think about the people you may be intentionally (or unintentionally) harming by judging them on the basis of their sexual orientation. Furthermore, I ask you to look around and see what actions you might personally take to make someone feel a little better. It is true that everyone has some sort of burden. Rather than contribute to someone’s burden, take the time to do what you can to lessen it.

Help lift the veil of secrecy that surrounds mental illness. Love your family and friends in a manner that is free from judgment. Learn to be tolerant of difference. Fight against anything and anyone who wishes to promote a single way of life (mainstream) as being the only acceptable way. Challenge yourself, and one another, to be better human beings.

Collectively, we are capable of so much love and understanding. And guess what muffins; it begins with each of us!

Sorry for the soapbox today but I needed to say those things. I really do hope you will comment and we can begin a dialogue on this…

Lovingly posted,
Mrs. P

2006-01-29T00:41:00.000-06:00

Well Muffins...

Today was a truly challenging day. I found myself with a considerable amount of time on my hands this afternoon and not really in the mood to read (usually one of my favorite pastimes). I flipped through the channels on the tele and, in spite of over 900 channels, found nothing that sparked my interest. I guess what was really going on was the preoccupation I have had recently with people (myself included) who report having plenty of friends in their life but suffer periodic bouts of loneliness.

I found myself questioning whether I am a good person, surely I must be - but why then am I alone on a Saturday. All I needed to do, however, is go down the road of aloneness a little further. Far enough to realize that my life has been so over-stuffed with events and activities lately that I have not had time to just relax. I guess it is that comparison that really made me appreciate how nice it was to have a respite.

You see, I am a people person. I love meeting new folks, am able to converse with almost anyone, and truly enjoy the company of others. I would like to think that I am able to make most people feel comfortable when they are around me. Especially when I am entertaining them in my home. I am quite used to having others around. I love cooking and entertaining for large groups and the sound of laughter (and occasionally tears) is welcome in my world. I often have so much activity in the course of the day that when I am faced with true quiet, it can be a bit unnerving.

That said, I did come to appreciate the moment. I remembered a task that I have been putting off. I had a stack of Napkins (cloth ones) that had been laundered after several recent dinner parties. They were clean, but wrinkled and waiting for an iron. So I set to the task. I actually made it through about 35 napkins during this marathon steam session and was amazed at how much clarity of thought can be procured whilst engaging in mundane rote task work. You see, it didn't really take a lot of skill or thought to do the task. All it required was dedication and perseverance. My mind was free to think through all of the thoughts that could have otherwise set my mind to racing. I was able to remember the people in my life who make it so rich.

I appreciate the quiet times as well as the times when my house is full. If ever, I begin to sing the old Bette Midler tune "I used to have friends" and start to think I have a reason to be lonely, I just need to remember I DO HAVE FRIENDS! Some of them are right around the corner waiting for me to meet them for the first time.

Peace and love.

Mrs. P

Are you lonely tonight? (reclaimed text from an earlier post)

2006-01-29T00:12:00.000-06:00

Well Muffins...

As I have mentioned before - I am new to this and I am still getting used to the technology.

Here is the complete original version of the post that I made on 1/28/06 - some of it is the same - some of it is still relevant but a brand new read.

Today was a truly challenging day. I found myself with a considerable amount of time on my hands this afternoon and not really in the mood to read (usually one of my favorite pastimes). I flipped through the channels on the tele and, in spite of over 900 channels, found nothing that sparked my interest. I guess what was really going on was the preoccupation I have had recently with people (myself included) who report having plenty of freinds in their life but suffer periodic bouts of loneliness.

I found myself questioning whether I am a good person, surely I must be - but why then am I alone on a Saturday. All I needed to do, however, is go down the road of aloneness a little further to realize that my life has been so overstuffed with events and activities lately that I have not had time to just relax. I guess it is the comparison that really made me appreciate how nice it was to have a respite.

You see, I am a people person. I love meeting new folks, am able to converse with almost anyone, and truly enjoy the company of others. I would like to think that I am able to make most people feel comfortable when they are around me, especially when I am entertaining them in my home. I am quite used to having others around. I love cooking and entertaining for large groups and the sound of laughter (and occasionaly tears) is welcome in my world. I often have so much activity in the course of the day that when I am faced with true quiet, it can be a bit unnerving.

That said, I did come to appreciate the moment. I remembered a task that I have been putting off. I had a stack of Napkins (cloth ones) that had been laundered after several recent dinner parties. They were clean, but wrinkled and waiting for an iron. So I set to the task. I actually made it through about 35 napkins during this marathon steam session and was amazed at how much clarity of thought can be procured whilst engaging in mundane rote task work. You see, it didn't really take alot of skill or thought to do the task. All it required was dedication and perseverence. My mind was free to think through all of the thoughts that could have otherwise set my mind to racing. I was able to remember the people in my life who make it so rich. I was able to appreciate how nice it is to engage in adult relationships with my children. I was able to cherish the loved ones who are no longer living but I will always hold dear. Most importantly, I was able to remember that without my occasional bout of loneliness, I would not be able to truly appreciate how much love and companionship with spectacular people I noramlly enjoy.

It is very true you know. In order to appreciate the light of Spring you need the comparison of the darkness of Winter. I hope you each are able to weather your darker moments in order to appreciate the lighter ones. I wish for each of you the joy of knowing a true friend. If ever you are feeling like you don't have a friend - remeber they are out there to be made all around you.

Case in point...
I had dinner with friends night before last and the host told us a tale of how one day he encountered someone at the gas pump who offered to pump the gas for a donation. He very graciously told the person that he did not have the spare cash and that what he had needed to go into his tank so that he could continue to make it to work that week. He then continued to engage in dialogue with the person, even though it was clear that they would not be receiving any cash from him. After several minutes of chatting the person asked my friend "why are you still talking to me" to which he replied "I cannot give you any money as I have no extra". He then added "I can give you my time and respect as both of those are free".

Making friends is a no cost activity. Some people will try to make it something that has a fee (present exchanges, who paid for the last bill at dinner, etc.) but remember this:

To make a friend requires very little of you other than the desire to be "present". It took a pile of napkins for me to be reminded of these simple facts. Actaully, the napkins just gave me the time and focus to remeber what I knew all along. I do not need to be lonely, I just need to reach out.

Love and peace.

Mrs. P

Just a quick note

2006-01-27T18:42:00.000-06:00

Just a quick note…

I need to do a quick “howdy do” and “thank you” to my dear friend Stevie.

Today, whilst having coffee and then a little sprint to the big red bulls eye store, he surprised me.  He presented me with the grandest of all travel companions… a Hot Pink Stanley.

That’s all I’ll tell you for now… well that, and that it is just the thing to warm a gal up on a chilly eve.  I don’t want to spoil the secret… wait until I have a photo to really do it justice.

Have a safe evening and weekend Muffins.

Kiss

Mrs. P

GILMY!!!!!!!!!!

2006-01-27T13:22:00.000-06:00

Oh for heaven's sake!

Can you believe it has come to this - where you can be sitting in LA and I here in Elliot Park, MN and we are connected through BLOGS! I love you and miss you sweetie and will gladly link your blog to mine if you promise to only "vent" nicely! :)

Drink another cup of blackjuice for me and remember to go easy on the equal. I am still not convinced that it doesn't cause cancer!

Say hello to all the gang and especially give Shonie a big squeeze for me.

Love to all.
Margie

Oh my!

2006-01-25T23:52:00.000-06:00

Oh my – it has been a day then. I was with my male friend Jim last night (part of the reason I stayed over was because my 19-yar-old, self-professed “soon to be daughter-in-law” had managed to once again alienate me from my own home). Anyway, while I was with Jim, I realized that there are a few things that go fundamentally un-noticed and, therefore, not discussed in our post-modern romantic lives. One of these things is the ability to assert ourselves. Assertion seems to always carry with it some level of self-importance. Somehow – we as a culture – have decided that to assert one’s will is to gain control and/or relinquish another’s authority over a situation. I do not believe it is that simple. You see, I love my son(s) – and that means all of you – adopted, biological, fig newtons of my imagination – ALL OF YOU!
I respect your choices. I do not, however, need to love your loves with the undying emotional gratitude you feign in order to not fall out of favor and perhaps miss a night of “L’Amour”.

I expect respect; from employers, from politicians, from lovers, and from the clerk at the grocery store (to say I expect it from the clerk at the counter of some shi shi salon would be overstepping my bounds). Therefore, why should I not expect respect from the betrothed of my beloved own flesh of my loins?

I will try to surmise what might be contributing factors but would welcome any and all unsolicited (well I guess I am soliciting now am I not) feedback.

S (let’s just call her that) is my son’s fiancée. She has taken to the ugly habit of telling my eldest biological heir the things she finds as faults in me. Bad dilemma – no one wins.

My response is simple:

S. no longer gets to “camp out” here (engaged son and I share a domicile) when her betrothed is not around. Why? Simple, you don’t like me – and have enough respect for me to tell me to my face – you are not a welcome recipient of my grand benevolence. In other words… deal straight or get out of the game.

Further, no more phone calls from son 1 (the engaged) telling me that he is having S. over for dinner and what are my plans. I retreated, which I vow to never do again. This is my home and I will not relinquish my home to someone who may (or may not) have the staying power to become a bigger part of my world.

Respect, you see, always begins, in the same place. That place is the acknowledgement of dignity and an appreciation of what has gone before. I remember at 19 thinking I had my shit all straightened out….. Man! Was I wrong!

I was made a manager of a great workforce by age 28 (what I have to say about that is huge. Suffice it to say in this entry that management before the age of 30 is a recipe for disaster – INDUSTRY WIDE)!

I have influenced political agenda(s) and have balanced budget(s) (my own withstanding – a work in progress).

I have chatted with the rich and famous as well as those who call the street their home.

I have learned one thing about us all – the whole race (human that is)

We all strive to have a voice, a legacy, a mark.

I believe that is the motivation of a young woman when she swoops into a home and tries to create discord amongst its members. I believe it is what motivates the president of the free world to swoop into a foreign land (under the declaration of protecting freedom) and impose values that are not congruent with years of (their) civilization. And, most importantly, I believe it is what causes some to hang on to archaic religious/moral codes that belonged to their father’s father’s father. Some things deserve to be challenged. Some things are in need of great change. And some things need to be accepted as being the “phase” they are.

S. – I have no doubt that if you and my baby do actually tie the knot, we will work through our differences. Until that day occurs – consider yourself someone who is a “guest” in our home. Live and behave accordingly and we will have no issue. Dis me to another family member and we will have words. Do it a second time and we will need to really put the blood/water theory to the test. Which one do you think is thicker?

I wonder.

That’s all for now muffins.

Sleep Tight!

Margie

Well Muffins I am back to it...

2006-01-23T15:06:00.000-06:00

Well Muffins, I am back to writing.  Sorry for the unexplained absence.  These past few weeks have flown by due to a personal tragedy experienced in my little community.  A death of a person held very dear by many was the event and it has got me thinking that we just don’t do enough to discuss the things that mean the most when we have the chance to do so.

I have recently been made aware of a campaign in California that encourages people to say hello to one another.  It doesn’t matter if they know one another; it is simply the act of being gracious to one another and taking the time to greet one another in a civil manner.

I started thinking about all the times when I have allowed road rage to creep into my world (I admit it, I am a bitch on wheels).  I, for one, can make a conscious effort to try to breathe deep the next time someone cuts me off.   It should help if I just think back to how out of sorts and preoccupied behind the wheel I was shortly after the tragedy.  Maybe the offender is just having a really rough day.

The next time I see someone who looks like they are really struggling, a simple hello from a stranger may well be the ticket to cheer them.  Maybe, if we all took the time to do one more good deed each day, we could reverse the trend of our society become more and more me-centered and regain a stronger sense of community.

I am very saddened by the loss of my friend.  Moreover, I am saddened that in the world today we still are arguing over things like whether being Gay is bad and who can marry. These things, among many others, contribute (in my opinion) to our closing ourselves off to one another.  The more separatist we become, the harder it is to just enjoy each other’s company.  Isn’t it time for each and every one of us to stop our own part in carrying forth ignorance and hatred.

Here’s an idea.  Let’s all take a collective breath, slow down, allow someone to pass and say hello to strangers.  Would it really be so tough to be kind?

My hope for each of you today is that you find some time for yourself, and you have the opportunity to make another person’s day a little bit brighter by crossing their path.

Peace and blessings dear ones.
Mrs. P.

2006-01-13T19:41:00.000-06:00

It is time to get ready for the upcoming event season kids! Slim down, shop right and wow them this year at "Oscar Night on Ice"

Here I am

2005-12-31T12:58:00.000-06:00

I have had a number of people ask me what I look like. Well Muffins, here I am. I like to get out frequently, maybe someday soon you will see me out and about (if you do, please stop by and say a quick hello). This was taken last year at "Hollywood 2005" the fabulous fundraiser held by the Minnesota AIDS Project each year.

I am looking forward to becoming better acquainted with you soon. Don't be shy - send in your questions. Don't worry about offending me - you won't.

Let's talk about what makes us happy, sad, but most of all content.

Kisses,

Mrs. P

World's slowest to get started

2005-12-29T12:43:00.000-06:00

Ok Muffins - at long last - here is another post. My life has settled down to the point where I think I can finally dedicate myself to the task of regular communication with my loyal fans.

You know, I once read (or heard , or dreamed or something) that if you believe in something enough it will become your reality.

You know, like if you think you are beautiful, you will glow and people will appreciate your presence (even with that third eye in the middle of your forehead).

Likewise, if you keep running the tapes (those pesky little thoughts that you cannot stop from repeating in your thoughts) that are self-deprecating, you will aspire to make them truth. Well I recently decided to challenge a tape that I have been playing for so long I think it was released the same day as Mr. Barry Manilow's version of the Copa Cabana. That tape had me starring in a major motion picture with a raft of other celebs and sharing top billing with whomever the man of the year was for Hollywood royalty. I am, of course, cast in the role of femme fatale and eventually break his heart whilst merrily driving off into the sunset in my brand new Lexus convertible (ok so I updated the car for the sake of believability).

Well - It has not yet come true! Is it time for me to retire the tape? Is it my destiny to not allow my dreams to resonate fully and become my own reality? Was it the wrong choice to go to work for Target instead of accepting the role of a jet in the Shoreview Community Theater's rendition of West Side Story at the tender age of 15?

I think not! Who says you must be a certain age for any of your dreams to be fully realized? I am - after all- only as old as I feel - right?!

Ok, so that last part is a little scary on the mornings when you wake up and feel like you are leftovers from the Pleistocene Age.

I often look at my aging beauty and think of all the things I may have accomplished in my life had I not done this or that. I often question if I have taken the right path, at the right time, with the right accessories...

I then remind myself of the most important affirmation anyone can recite to oneself standing alone, naked, confronting themselves in the mirror (besides "did you really need to eat that last piece of fudge at Gloria's Happy Holidays Hoe Down").

"You are who you are" Once we begin to accept ourselves - on our own terms - resolute with faults and forgiveness, we can begin to see the essence of what lies beneath. I may not be the best at being "on time". I do, however, take the time to stop and assist others when needed. I may not have amber pools of still water for eyes, but I do know how to pick out eyeware that accentuates the positive. I may not be the brightest bulb on the tree, but I do - from time to time - exude the warmth of the glowing embers from a fire well tended.

Most importantly...
I look each day for the inner beauty of others (Like myself) who may not wear their blessings so that others can bear witness. I have often met folks who have been overlooked by others and begin to accept that this is their "lot" in life. I say Huey to this... get up, shake it off and start to love yourself for what you bring to the mirror. We are all, each and every one of us, glamorous in some way. We are all Hollywood royalty. But most importantly, we are all capable of making the best of what each day offers.

Here's my tip for today:

follow the advice of the video store
"be kind - rewind"

Then - if the tape sucks

"BURN IT" pay the fee and save someone else the misery of sitting through something that was trash to begin with. Move on to the next project and this time look for a better script!

I'll see you on the red carpet baby!

Love, Mrs. P

Oh those pesky legislators

2005-05-26T03:09:00.000-05:00

I don't know about you kids but I am a little tired of how our taxpayer dollars are being spent by some of our elected officials. What with the trend of hiding in bushes to spy on public assemblies (Bachman's follies) and poor grammar (check out the following link and tell me if you think he really meant Prospective... an elected official no less).

http://www.house.leg.state.mn.us/members/pressreleasels84.asp?district=19B&pressid=468&party=2

I wish our elected officials would do three things:
1) Represent the people - not their people
2) Realize the longevity of their actions and behave accordingly (look to the recent environmental legislative repeals and do the math on what odds you think you have for a future with clean water and natural resources).
3) If you are moralizing with our money and acting upon your personal spiritual beliefs - STOP IT! You are not an arcangel sent to save the world - all you are is an elected spokesperson of the people. We did not ask you to dictate to us how we are to live. We did, when we elected you, expect you to take your seat, listen carefully and represent us all!

As for my wishes for the rest of us:

Sleep well, keep your energy up for the good fight and keep your ear to the ground!

There most certainly is an attack that is about to occur. It is an all out assault on the freedoms we currently enjoy as Americans. Pay attention and act while you can on those things dearest to your heart and your liberty.

That's all for tonight.

Mrs. P

please be patient...

2005-03-17T18:57:00.000-06:00

A special moment at the Ball!

Stay tuned as this old gal revs her engine...

I promise it will not be long before I start bringing you tibits of fabulosity soon. First I need to replace the laptop that was stolen right out from under my nose a couple of weeks ago.

As soon as the technology is recovered we will be off to the races and will have a big 'ole boatload of fun!

Kiss!
Mrs. P

Hello Muffins!

2005-03-03T22:54:00.000-06:00

Hello all. My name is Marge... actually Marjorie. I prefer to be called Mrs. Pederson or Mrs. P for short. I will be using my blog primarily to share comments and curiosities shared by you, my readers. Oh, from time to time, I may have to put in my two cents worth - but mostly - I am a trusted conduit of the public voice.

Bring me your stories, your ills and from time to time, your tall tales. I am all ears (and fabulous hair).

Stay in touch...

Mrs. P